Society of the past used to shame you for being sexually active, didn’t really matter your gender. Some articles I’ve read cite religious beliefs.
For me I feel shame post ejaculation , I’m positive that I am not the only one who must be feeling this way ? I have read that some this has to do with depression and a reduction in serotonin levels post orgasm. Masturbation is now a very socially acceptable form of sexual expression and can even reduce stress apparently. How ever , for some reason I get the opposite effect.
These depressive feelings have put me off of wanting to have intercourse regularly. It definitely has affected my relationship with my current partner. I have had some traumatic experiences In the past and she is accepting of it, she is patient with me and I love that about her. And I love that she is so understanding, it was difficult in the beginning explaining to her. I don’t think she totally understands it either but she can’t pressure me into having intercourse because (unlike a lot men out there) I don’t have the sexual libido to want to have sex with every woman I meet. But there is a personal hurdle, a chasm, that seems to far to jump. Until it’s not and I do make the jump for her , not so much for me.
It is somewhat like an endless cycle. If I have intercourse or masterbate , ejaculation is sure to follow. After ejaculation I then have about 4 minutes (if I have to put a number to it) of serotonin, immediately followed by the feeling of shame and guilt. A few days go by and i get the urge again repeating the cycle. unless I am disciplined and ignore it, which is how I usually deal with it.
By ignoring this primal urge I usually feel more aggressive, as if I have just been pumped with a little extra testosterone, so it can’t be all bad right ?
The previous few paragraphs were written a few days ago, since then I have read (and discovered) there is in fact a medical term for this. It is call Post coital tristesse or PCT for short. It is apparently similar to a form of PTSD except in intercourse. And it causes depression, anxiety and even aggressive behavior post ejaculation. It’s also apparently more likely for men to have this than women. IMO , I feel like if you suffered from sexual trauma or embarrassment that it would probably be equally as likely to happen.
If you’re a stranger here and this kind of thing happens to you as-well , please comment and let me know. I am actually curious how other people experience life post ejaculation.
It’s odd cause the initial rush of happiness you get while having intercourse is usually something sacred and a lot people are addicted to it.
Anyway thanks for reading and as always
Have a blessed day world